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EP 107: Getting Over Boredom in Your Job with Becca

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This episode is about suppressing feelings and being comfortable in our own skin. Today’s caller, Becca, could have been a millennial who was accustomed to instant gratification and unrealistic expectations when it came to working. But, that isn’t what she struggles with at all. I didn’t stereotype her or jump to conclusions, instead, I asked her what is the most challenging thing in her life.

It’s hard to get yourself motivated and inspired when there is no feeling associated with what you are doing. Often, we think something external is the problem but there is no external without the internal. When we don’t know how to process our feelings, we numb the pain and keep upping the numbing technique. It’s important to learn how to process our Expectation Hangovers, our old hurts, our old pains.

When a pattern of discomfort has become too comfortable we may just want to change our lives, but like in Becca’s case, this can lead to extreme behavior. And, if you are holding on to shame, release it. Get it out into the light. Shame comes with blame. It’s time to forgive yourself and to forgive the other person because holding on to anger and resentment is only hurting you.

If you are looking for support, encouragement, and love, my Personal Mastery Course, Over It and On With It is the most comprehensive virtual coaching program I have. You receive six weeks of personalized coaching with me, guided meditations, videos, and I engage with you live on Facebook Lives and in group coaching calls. This course starts in October and it’s only offered once per year.


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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Would you consider yourself a bit of an extremist?

Becca’s Question:

Becca feels something is holding her back from being committed to her work.

Becca’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is mimicking the patterns of her dad.
  • She distracted herself with drugs and alcohol to deal with her parent’s divorce.
  • She’s looking for quick fix.
  • She feels ashamed of contracting an STD.
  • She thinks of leaving her job when she needs a quick fix for a problem.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should forgive herself for distracting herself with partying.
  • She should bring her best to the job she is in now.
  • She can take responsibility for her choices without blaming herself.
  • She can do the exercises in Expectation Hangover.

Takeaways:

  • If you are bored in your job or relationship examine if you have difficulty being present.
  • Look at how some of your worst fears are already happening. Consider what you are going to do to change it.
  • Bring your shame out of the shadows. Forgive yourself and forgive others.
  • If you are bored in your work, or life, write a letter about everything that is wonderful about your situation. How can you bring more excitement from the inside out?

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Resources:

Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

“Healing Shame and Knowing You Are Lovable — No Matter What” Podcast

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Tweetables:

Be vulnerable and share whatever you feel shameful for. Look at what lessons you’ve extracted from it and let it go.… Click To Tweet

A pattern of discomfort can lead to extreme behavior. Do you often make drastic changes?… Click To Tweet

Changing external conditions never changes our internal state. http://apple.co/1hO8XZR… Click To Tweet

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CC: Christine answers questions about how to not “take on’ other people’s stuff and how to restart your career.

christine hassler podcastJennifer is a therapist who is feeling physically depleted after working with clients.  Christine gives her best tips for protecting her energy and serving people in a way that is energizing, not depleting. 

James is 54 years old and has worked at the same office job for three decades. He is interested in shifting to becoming self-employed but is disappointed he has not been able to get his new career off the ground.

Listen in as Christine addresses both these topics.

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EP 83: Letting Go of Parental “Mistakes” with Cathy.

Make sure to listen to this episode to hear Christine talk about the difference between sympathy and compassion.h

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EP 77: How to Get Over Your Fear of Pursuing Your Dream Career with Katie

EP77v1This episode is about pursuing dreams, overcoming fears, and stepping into the freedom of being an entrepreneur. Today’s caller, Katie, feels a calling to start a business as a coach, but fear is holding her back.

We don’t get out of fear with pep talks or trying to push our way through. We get out of fear through action. One of Katie’s action steps is enrolling in B-School.

Fear about what other people think of you will paralyze you, if you are not focused on service and impact. If you make your work about you, it will drain you emotionally. You will constantly be trying to protect yourself from criticism or judgment. It is not possible for everyone to like you. Feedback is feedback. You can choose to get triggered by it, and take it personally, or you can receive it neutrally. You have your own unique group of people you are supposed to help. Stop giving your energy to the people who aren’t your people.

If you stop analyzing everything, and start taking action, you will be able to use the energy to generate momentum in your business. Please stop wasting your time and energy obsessing about what other people think.

If you feel a calling and feel like you have gifts to share, stop stalling, and trust your gifts; it wouldn’t be there if it wasn’t leading you somewhere. Your dreams and desires are not random. But, only you can turn them into reality.

If you desire freedom of time and freedom of self expression, or you can feel a calling to do what you love, enroll in Marie Forleo’s B-School. I use what I learned in B-School in my business. It has helped me to uplevel every aspect of my business. Enrollment ends March 3rd, so use the payment plan and get started. It pays for itself. I am offering 4 free 90-minute group coaching calls, access to a private Facebook group, guided meditations, mastermind day and other bonuses because I believe in the program so much.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel a calling, but fear is stopping you?
  • Do you want to put yourself out there, but are concerned about what other people will think of you?
  • Do you believe you need to be perfect, and have everything figured out, before you can help others or start a business?
  • Do you worry about being too vulnerable?
  • Are you wondering where the line is between being relatable and being professional?

Katie’s Question:

Katie would like to know how to get through the fear and anxiety that has come with the attention her new business is getting.

Katie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She’s afraid of what people will think about her.
  • She is judging herself more than other people are judging her.
  • She doesn’t know where to draw the line, when sharing her personal situation.
  • She knows sharing her story is important.
  • She should lean into her excitement and not the fear and anxiety.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should focus on serving others, not on herself.
  • She should own her feelings, and acknowledge she may not be completely through her stuff.
  • She should acknowledge which stage her business is in.
  • She should lean into what she wants more of, and how she wants to serve others.
  • She should get excited about her new business.
  • She should write out her mission and get clear on her why.
  • She should focus on the people who resonate with her.

Resources:

Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler
@christinhassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Christine@christinehassler.com
Marie Forleo’s B-School
The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level,
by Gay Hendricks

Tweetables:

Fear is not accurate feedback. http://apple.co/1hO8XZR #overitandonwithit Click To Tweet
If you put yourself out there, and then worry about what people think about you, life will be hell.… Click To Tweet
The pain of not living into our potential is far worse than the discomfort we go through, walking through it.… Click To Tweet

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On the fence about B-School? This may help . . .

If you’ve been considering joining B-School but something is keeping you from enrolling, I get it.  I understand it is a lot of money. I also get that it is a big time commitment and can feel overwhelming.

You may be asking: Can I afford it? Is now really a good time? Will I get what I need from it? Will I be able to keep up with the content?

If you are still on the fence about B-school, this email will help you get clear.

Here are important things to keep in mind:

  1.    Investing in YOU and YOUR business is the best investment you can make. You’ve heard, “It takes money to make money.” Well it is true. That said, you do not want to “waste” money on things without a high ROI.  B-school is a highly vetted and endorsed program that will save you a lot of time and money that you could spend trying to access all the information in the program in other ways.

And for the first time ever Marie is offering a 12-pay option to make it a whole lot easier to afford! Go here to enroll now.

Also if someone close to you is challenging this decision, Marie recently created some language to help you communicate more clearly with your family and friends (or maybe even a business partner). Here’s an example of what you might say:

“B-School is definitely an investment, but if I want my business to grow and make money, I can’t stagnate. I really believe in my business and want it to succeed—for myself and for our family. In order to do that, I can’t operate in isolation. I need to meet and work with others to share ideas, learn new strategies, get valuable feedback, and make connections. This is really important for me. Can you get behind this?”

  1.   A good idea and passion is not enough to make money.  I have not built my business on my gifts and enthusiasm alone.  It has required structure, planning and getting coached by others.  Good ideas need a revenue-making model behind them to generate income otherwise they are just hobbies.

B-school teaches you how to identify and reach your ideal consumer and then turn them into paying customers. Plus if you enroll in my community, I will personally work with you to come up with strategies to get customers.

Instead of feeling overwhelmed, B-school gives you a CLEAR roadmap so you can focus your ideas and passion in a way that is productive rather than just trying a bunch of different things.  

And keep in mind you can GO AT YOUR OWN PACE and the COURSE MATERIALS ARE YOURS FOREVER!!!

  1.     Being an entrepreneur can get lonely.   The special community you will be a part of if you enroll through my link will give you the support and connection that is so important to your sanity!  

I am here to support you in building the business of your dreams, being your own boss and finally turning your great ideas into a revenue-making reality!

And don’t forget I am offering LOTS of additional free support including four live coaching calls, a private Facebook community, customized meditations, free access to my online products and a Masterminding day with me in San Diego this summer!! All the details are here.

It is time to get on with building the biz and life you LOVE!!! No more waiting for the “perfect” time. B-school only opens enrollment once a year so the time is NOW.  

To your success!
Christine