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Is it hard to make time for yourself?

There is just so much to do, right?!

Between getting to work, taking care of your family, spending time with friends, getting to the gym, grocery shopping, paying bills, cleaning the house, and email – there is always email.

Whew! I’m tired just thinking about all the stuff we all to do. No wonder so many of us feel depleted and stressed out.  There is not time for meditation, journaling, or self-reflection with our endless to-do lists and obligations.

But do we really not have the time? Or is it more true to say we do not make the time?

We all have the same number of hours in a day and it is our responsibility to use them wisely. If we consistently put ourselves on the back burner and are easily distracted by our to-do list, eventually the lack of self-care catches up with us.

Why is carving out time for ourselves so challenging?

You may think it is because you are busy, but perhaps there is actually another reason.  Consider that the reason you are not making time for self-care is because being with yourself is uncomfortable. Busy-ness is often a distraction from feeling feelings we want to avoid.

This is exactly what was uncovered in my coaching session with Joanne who is a busy mom who could not figure out why she was not making time to nurture herself. She knew self-care was important and wanted to do it; yet each time she attempted it, she found herself distracted by a to-do item.

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If you are a parent this is a MUST listen and even if you are not, you will gleam powerful insights.

And some BIG NEWS: we figured out a way to get all previous episodes of Over it and On With It up on iTunes!! So those of you who are newer listeners can go and binge listen.  Just go here.

Sending you tons of love and a reminder that making self-care a #1 priority is actually the most giving thing you can do.  The better you are to you, the better you will be to others.

And I always appreciate it when you share the podcast episodes.  Here is a tweet for you:  I loved this episode! So much great info on how to make self-care a priority! ((Tweet this!))

Love,
Christine

p.s. My next retreat is in Austin Memorial Day weekend and open to women and men!!! I am co-facilitating with my soul brother Aubrey Marcus a three-day event called: Love, Practice Makes the Master.  We will be exploring self-love, romantic love, and love of purpose and community.

Aubrey and I will be bringing a beautiful mix of masculine and feminine energy so EVERYONE feels seen, heard and loved.  We will provide a super juicy experience rich with inspiration and transformation.

Included in the retreat: coaching on love and relationship challenges, breath work and guided meditation, onsite yoga, experiential processes to open your heart, guided processes to help you identify and step into your purpose, all while connecting to a tribe of like-minded people.

This is a super intimate event and is selling out FAST. Go here to grab your spot!!

Why You Neglect Your Own Self-Care with Joanne

EP86v1This episode is about becoming a loving parent to ourselves. My coaching session with Joanne is a beautiful example of how important it is to give ourselves the love or attention we did not receive from our parents. Even if you had super loving and attentive parents, you should still be giving yourself the same kind of love.

A lot of people believe they can heal the wounds from their own childhood by being a different kind of parent than they had. And while breaking generational patterns is incredibly valuable, it is only 50% of how we heal. We must mother or father ourselves with the same unconditional love and attention we give our children.

Two things often come up as blocks when we attempt to take quiet time for ourselves. One, the guilt or expectation that we should be doing other things that are “more productive.” Two, feelings we may not want to deal with can surface when we take quiet, meditative time.

People who have children sometimes say, “My children are my teachers.” When you have children it is common for things from your childhood to be triggered. Suppressed or forgotten memories start to come forward. It is important for parents to acknowledge there may be something for them to learn from it.

Aubrey Marcus and I are facilitating a 3-day retreat in Austin, Texas over Memorial Day weekend for men and women. The focus of the retreat is Love: Practice Makes the Master. There will be yoga, breathing exercises, ecstatic dance and more. Come and become part of the tribe.

My Inner Circle Membership Community is an eclectic community where anyone can find a home. Transformations and bonds are created by people sharing and connecting with each other. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com about joining.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • What kind of parent are you to yourself? Would you talk to or treat a child the way you talk to or treat yourself?
  • How did you feel loved and nurtured by your parents? Are you giving the love and nurturing to yourself?
  • How did you not feel loved and nurtured? How can you start giving that to yourself?
  • When it comes to self-care and making time for yourself, do you find other ‘to-dos’ take priority?

Joanne’s Question:

Joanne finds it challenging to provide herself self-care on a routine basis. She continually gives other things priority over her self-care.

Joanne’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She’s aware of how important self-care is.
  • She feels mom guilt when she is not spending time with her baby.
  • She is mirroring a pattern her mom had when she was growing up.
  • She wanted love, attention and acceptance from her mother.
  • She broke generational patterns.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to mother herself in a way she wasn’t mothered as a child.
  • She needs to acknowledge herself for the mother she is.
  • She should talk to baby Joanne and be with her in a mothering way.

Takeaways:

  • Make ‘you time’ a priority, and leave a space open for your feelings to come forward. Suppressing your feelings through distraction will eventually wear out.
  • Give yourself the love you crave from your parents, or that you got from your parents.
  • If there are issues from your parents to be addressed, write them a forgiveness letter and let them off the hook.
  • Have a conversation with your younger self, and tell them anything you yearned to hear from mom or dad but didn’t.

Resources:

Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Expectation Hangover
Inner Circle Membership Community
Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler
@christinhassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Jill@Christinehassler.com
Love: Practice Makes the Master Retreat
University of Santa Monica

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Why you’re not doing the things that are good for you

A common question I receive is: “How do I keep up self-care practices like meditation, eating well, exercising, journaling, and so on?”

Well the most simplistic and accurate answer is: “just do it.” But I realize that is also a frustrating answer because just doing it isn’t always so easy – and there is a reason for that! In this week’s episode of Over It and On With It, I offer insight and ideas that will shift your experience with making self-care a habit.

If you intellectually know what to do in terms of self-care; however, you just are not doing it than you will relate to Helen, who I coach on the show. She is wondering why she isn’t doing things that she knows are good for her. She will go through spurts but then life gets busy and she goes back to old coping mechanisms. Sound familiar?

Consistent and quality self-care is harder than ever before because we are all sooooo busy and there are endless distractions. All you need is one glimpse at Facebook or Snapchat and all of a sudden an hour is gone.

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EP 36: Why You Are Not Doing the Things That Are Good For You

ep 36 v1There are endless distractions in our lives. Just one glimpse of Facebook or Snapchat and the next thing you know it’s an hour later and you’ve gone down a rabbit hole. Practicing self-care is not as enticing as our phone, the TV or a glass of wine but the payoff is far, far greater.

But why is self-care so hard sometimes? How come we know we “should” do things like mediation, journaling, exercise, etc but we don’t actually do them (or stick to doing them)? Because self-care can feel like punishment if we don’t have enough fun and play in our lives. Self-care activities are all solo activities, so instead of us feeling replenished after we do these self-supporting things we may feel isolated.

We are spiritual beings having a human experience and as humans, we need 3 types of connections. The first connection humans need is to our higher power (insert your terminology here). The second is to ourselves and the third is to others. If you are not connecting, playing and doing the things that feed your soul then you are going to want to rebel in some way. If we don’t get play in a healthy way then we indulge and procrastinate, all the things which move us away from our self-care practices.

If you know what to do in terms of self-care but you are just not doing it, then you will relate to today’s caller Helen. Helen is wondering why she’s not doing the things that are good for her. She goes through spurts but then she gets busy and goes back to old coping mechanisms.

We are able to change our state at any time but it takes focus, some intention and a willingness to get into a different mindset and heart set. When we start making decisions with our intuition and not with our head, we can consider our options and then “feel” into them to help decide which is the most fun!

If it has been a while since you’ve played and you feel a refresher course is needed listen to this week’s Coaches Corner as I speak to my friend Charlie. Charlie specializes in teaching us how to love and how to play.

Also, I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities. And, consider my Secret Sauce event for people who want to uncover their unique secret sauce and up level their business, start a new business or make a career transition.


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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you feeling stuck or blocked with regards to your self-care? Do you know you “should” but don’t seem to do it?
  • Do you have a community of like-minded people you are connected to? Are you getting your soul fed?
  • Do you make decisions with your head or your heart?
  • Do you know how to play in a way which takes your mind off of everything else? When was the last time you actually played?

Helen’s Question:

Helen wants to know why she can’t seem to do the things she knows are good for her.

Helen’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • She doesn’t feed her soul enough
  • She is experiencing an Expectation Hangover about her new endeavors
  • She needs some connection and play

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She should make decisions with her intuition and not her head
  • She should then follow through with the decision her heart makes
  • She needs to feed her soul and add more play in her life

Tools and Takeaways:

  • Listen to the How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself podcast again.
  • Be diligent about connecting with your spiritual, like-minded tribe. And, remember to drop your guard so that you can be truly seen.
  • When it comes to decision making, go with what FEELS like it will provide you the most soul food. Make a decision with your heart and then go with it.

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Resources:
Christine Hassler
@christinhassler on Twitter
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Christine@christinehassler.com
Jill@christinehassler.com
Secret Sauce Mastermind

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