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The difference between compromise and sacrifice

Last Monday I ended up in Urgent Care.  I am fine but it taught me some valuable lessons. More on that in a moment…

First please ponder these questions: What is the difference between compromise and sacrifice?  And is it possible to compromise without sacrificing the things that are most important to us?

My answer is to the second question is yes and I share in today’s vlog more about how the distinction between compromise and sacrifice saved me from a lot of physical pain and a professional expectation hangover.  Go here to watch.

The last two months of my life have been more stressful than usual. I have been doing my best to keep my self-care tank full; however, last week my body just gave out on me. I got a wicked sinus and ear infection and lost my voice after five straight days of shooting and little sleep.  I had a keynote scheduled in Omaha and the night before I was supposed to leave I was in incredible pain and literally speechless (and it is kinda hard to give a speech without a voice).

I took myself to Urgent Care because all of my holistic remedies were not working – and believe me I was doing everything! The doctor told me if I wanted to be able to fly and speak, I would need a steroid shot and anti-biotics.  Yikes.  This goes against how I approach my health. I have spent years detoxifying my body so taking drugs felt daunting.

I asked the doc to give me a moment and did my own internal check in. The immediate response I received was to say yes to the help from western medicine that was available to me.  My body wanted relief from the pain and my heart wanted to honor my commitment to make it to my keynote.

In this experience I realized that I would need to compromise on my values a bit but not sacrifice them completely.  I also realized that my ego was very invested in being “holistic” and I was neglecting the place Western medicine has.   So the compromise I made with myself was to say yes to the medicine, bless it and make an agreement with myself to really up my self-care and de-tox after the round of medicine.

An hour later I could breath.  The next day I could get on the plane. And the following day I was able to deliver my two keynotes to an incredible audience.

I may have had to compromise a bit on how I usually approach my health but if I had not, I would have sacrificed the health my ears or sinuses if I flew or sacrificed showing up for an audience if I cancelled.

Here’s the lesson: Our belief systems and values are indeed valuable. Yet we cannot be so attached to them that we become rigid and unwavering.  Sometimes we do need to make compromises for a bigger purpose.  If we are more invested in being right, we may make a choice that puts a relationship, our health, or career at risk.

I would never advise you to sacrifice your values completely, but I do ask you to consider where you may be a little to attached to a particular belief.  Or where you are more concerned about being right than you are about being loving.

Where is a compromise in order in your own life? Perhaps in a relationship with someone.  Or perhaps in a particular set of belief systems you have. Or perhaps when it comes to your own health.

Compromise is not a loose-loose situation; it is often required to create a win-win.   Being too attached to any set of belief systems is a function of our ego not our soul (tweet this!).

Keep an open heart and open mind in all situations.

With love and in good health,
Christine

p.s. My next retreat is in Austin Memorial Day weekend and open to women and men!!! I am co-facilitating with my soul brother Aubrey Marcus a three-day event called: Love, Practice Makes the Master.  We will be exploring self-love, romantic love, and love of purpose and community.

Aubrey and I will be bringing a beautiful mix of masculine and feminine energy so EVERYONE feels seen, heard and loved.  We will provide a super juicy experience rich with inspiration and transformation.

Included in the retreat: coaching on love and relationship challenges, breath work and guided meditation, onsite yoga, experiential processes to open your heart, guided processes to help you identify and step into your purpose, all while connecting to a tribe of like-minded people.

This is a super intimate event and is selling out FAST. Go here to grab your spot!!

You asked for it . . . a retreat for men and women!!

For years you have been asking me to host retreat for women AND MEN.  Well it is finally happening!

I am so psyched to share that my dear friend Aubrey Marcus and I will be co-facilitating a 3-day retreat in Austin: LOVE. Practice Makes the Master May 26 – 28th in Austin, Texas.  We will focus on improving the quality of relationships in your life, (including the relationship with yourself) so you can experience more connection, intimacy, and freedom.

If you do not know who Aubrey is, allow me to share a little bit about him . . .

Out of all the men I could have asked to lead a retreat with, Aubrey is at the top of my list. He walks the talk. He has done the deep work that leads to freedom and success on all level.  And not only has he founded a very successful company for years, he also devotes his life to supporting people in going for their own personal wins.  He is a masterful facilitator with a heart of gold and I cannot wait to share him with all of you!

Aubrey and I will be bringing a beautiful mix of masculine and feminine energy so EVERYONE feels seen, heard and loved.  We will provide a super juicy experience rich with inspiration and transformation.

Included in the retreat: coaching on love and relationship challenges, breath work and guided meditation, onsite yoga, experiential processes to open your heart, guided processes to help you identify and step into your purpose, all while connecting to a tribe of like-minded people.

This weekend is for singles or couples.  ANYONE is welcome.  If you want a relationship, we will help you remove the blocks to having one. If you crave self-acceptance, we will support you in remembering the truth of who you are. If you long for more intimacy in your current relationship, we will show you how to create it. If you are question what your purpose is, we will help you find it.

>> Go here for more details and to register <<

And to the ladies in relationships with men, many of you have personally asked me how to share personal growth work and spirituality with your man. Well, this is your opportunity!! And to the men that have asked me for a retreat, this is your chance to connect with other like-minded men.  Like I said, Aubrey brings the masculine energy so men will not feel this is too “woo-woo” and there will be lots of other men there.

Here are some of the weekend highlights:

Day 1: Self-love

  • - Meditation
  • - Setting Intentions
  • - Discuss relationship with ourselves
  • - Catered dinner
  • - Guided Breathwork

 

Day 2: Romantic Relationships

  • - Onsite Yoga
  • - Meditation
  • - Aubrey + Christine discuss romantic relations
  • - Group work
  • - Catered Lunch
  • - Feminine Energy vs. Masculine Energy
  • - Group Coaching with Aubrey + Christine

 

Day 3: Relationship with Community and Purpose

  • - Ecstatic Dance led by Aubrey Marcus
  • - Group work
  • - Onnit Tour
  • - Catered Lunch
  • - Mission + Purpose led by Aubrey
  • - In-depth Q&A

This is a special, once in a lifetime kind of experience and will only happen once so do not miss this.  We are also keeping the group small so we can work closely with everyone.

Plus, you get to come to my hometown Austin which you will love.  I cannot wait for this retreat. It is going to be off the charts.

Get your spot now. Go here for more details and to register.

With love,

Christine

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Breaking the cycle

This week on the podcast, I coached on a topic I have never coached on air before: breaking the cycle of unconscious parenting.

My caller, Cathy, shares about the struggles she has as a mother. She has observed insecurity and aggressive behavior in her daughter and she owns that her parenting may be creating it. Cathy has noticed herself getting very impatient and sometimes using corporal punishment on her daughter. Even though she knows this may not be the “best” way to parent, it is all she knows.  She grew up rather neglected and corporal punishment was used on her.

Thanks to Cathy’s courageous honesty and willingness to take responsibility for her behavior, we were able to make some tremendous progress in this call.

Go here to listen.

I’ve said many times, parenting does not come with an instruction manual.

Often, we play out behaviors we learned from our parents. It requires a conscious awareness to know what behaviors we want to leave in the past, and which we pass on to our children.

We need to have deep compassion for our parents and then forgive them, to stop repeating generational patterns. Stopping the cycle entails awareness, healing of our past hurts, and then the re-parenting of ourselves to become the loving parent we never had.

Of course this process takes some time and can be intense because it requires us to go back and do some healing of things we may not fondly remember.

Any form of abuse or hurtful, critical treatment of another continues because the victim never heals. The victim either becomes the abuser or internalizes the abuse. Often, people do not share about past abuse, because there is so much shame. This is not just true for abuse, it is the same for any generational pattern.

I encourage you to listen to this episode with compassion and consider what cycles you are committed to breaking.

With love,
Christine

p.s. Many of you have been asking me to facilitate a retreat for women and MEN! Well it’s finally happening. My soul brother Aubrey Marcus and I will be leading a three day retreat in Austin called: Love, Practice Makes the Master.  We will be exploring your relationship with yourself, your romantic relations and your connection with Higher Power and purpose.  Don’t miss this!! Go here to register.

My best tips to stay motivated

Getting motivated is often easy.  We have an initial burst of inspiration toward a goal or get super excited about an idea.  But staying motivated is not always as easy.

As a coach, I am committed to exploring what keeps people motivated to keep progressing toward their goals until they actually reach them. Over the years I have found there is one magical ingredient to consistent motivation and subsequent success: momentum.

I share about how to maintain momentum as well as tell you a story about my recent rock climbing experience in today’s vlog.

After not doing any climbing for at least a decade, I reached the top of a 55-foot wall, which I totally did not think I could do!! I made it all the way without slipping once. The only way I was able to do it was to keep putting one foot in front of the other determined to reach my goal. I never paused and I only looked at where I was on the wall. I never looked down and I never looked up. I kept the momentum going.

This is such a great metaphor for keeping momentum in life. We get bogged down if we look behind us and overwhelmed if we look too far ahead of us. One step at a time with focus, momentum and determination is what helps us reach our goals!

When you loose momentum, you experience a feeling of backtracking, which makes it even harder to get going again. So keep the momentum going by taking at least one step (even if it’s a teeny tiny little baby step) every day toward your goal.

An object in motion stays in motion.  Keep moving toward your goals one step at a time and trust you WILL reach them!! (Tweet this!)

Make sure to watch the video for my three big tips for how to have focus, momentum and determination.

And share with me . . .

What goals are you working toward? What area of your life needs some momentum? Head on over to the comments so I can cheer you on!

With love,
Christine

p.s. How would you like VIP access to me as your coach and an insider look at my best tips and tricks to empower you to uplevel your life?  If that sounds appealing, then join my Inner Circle!  This unique, intimate group composed of men and women from around the world and you can enroll at any time. It is a monthly membership that you can cancel at any time. Learn more here or email jill@christinehassler.com to set up a call and discover if Inner Circle is right for you.

p.p.s. Don’t miss this weeks podcast episode where I coach Ravi on overcoming his inner bully so he can discover his purpose.  Listen here.