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EP 98: How Your Fear of Failure is Sabotaging Your Success with Lindsey

EP98v1This episode is about moving past your fears and getting over it and on with it. I coach today’s caller, Lindsey, on how to move from awareness to implementation. She knows the next steps to take but cannot figure out why she isn’t taking them. She thinks her problem is about time management, productivity, and balance but, as you will hear in the call, it’s not about that at all.

What do you think about failure? Imagine you fail, or you get a no, or your endeavor is a complete flop. What happens inside of you? What do you think and feel? Are you embarrassed?

A healthy relationship to failure is an essential ingredient to success. Failure is defined as lack of success. But defining success is more difficult because if success is learning something, growing, or having experiences that make us stronger and wiser, then we never really fail. In my opinion, the only way you fail is if you go into the hopeless, helpless victim mode.

Stop playing it safe just because you want to avoid failure. Instead of taking teeny, tiny baby steps, get out of your comfort zone, and jump in the pool so you can move forward.

You have to drop the guilt and give yourself permission to do what you want.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • How are you at moving from awareness to implementation?
  • How do you feel about failure? What has been your biggest failure to date?
  • What steps do you know you should take, but don’t seem to be taking?

Lindsey’s Question:

Lindsey would like to know how to take action and use her time more wisely.

Lindsey’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She lives in an Expectation Hangover.
  • She’s never made a step without having a plan in place.
  • She’s feeling paralysis from analysis.
  • The fear of change is holding her back.
  • There is a piece of her that remains unfulfilled.
  • She knows the status quo will lead to regret and remorse.
  • She has a fear that no one will want to work with her.
  • She feels guilty about her lack of focus.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should give herself permission to do what she wants to do.
  • She needs to take steps that don’t threaten her sense of security but are still out of her comfort zone.
  • She needs to write out the expectations she makes of herself and then create agreements with herself.

Takeaways:

  • Take a risk and let yourself fail.
  • Write down your expectations and then make agreements with yourself, and stick to them.
  • Give yourself permission to go for your dreams, even if it means failing.

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Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life,
by Christine Hassler

Primal Blueprint

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EP 87: Overcome the Fear of Success and the Fear of Failure with Becca

EP87v1This episode is about overcoming the fear of success and the fear of failure. During the coaching session with Becca, it is clear she intellectually knows what she needs to do to build her business, but she can’t commit to doing it.

Everyone defines fear and success differently, but usually our fear of success has to do with being seen more, feeling unsafe, feeling more responsibility for changing, or changing or losing ourselves in some way. Our fear of failure normally has something to do with rejection, loss of money, or status, or security, judgment from others, or our own self-criticism that we endure if we fail.

So, how do we overcome these fears? It’s about more than taking action steps towards your goals. Maybe, you have tried to overcome it by just doing whatever it is. But, until you upgrade the beliefs and old triggers, which perpetuate the fear, you will continue to find yourself in your own way.

Many people think money will make them feel better about themselves or make them more confident. But it doesn’t — confidence is an inside job. We can’t create self-worth from money, but we can create net worth from self-worth.

When we have self-worth and do the internal work, we express our gifts and align with our higher purpose. We are then able to attract money to us. It is important for us to have a wealth consciousness.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • What are your fears around failure or success? Do you know what to do when it comes to your business, but you aren’t doing it?
  • Is there a part of you that has longed to fit in?
  • Do you feel guilty if you have too much good in your life?

Becca’s Question:

Becca is about to start a new quest but she finds herself unable to get started.

Becca’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She didn’t like growing up privileged.
  • Cooking is her way of connecting to people.
  • Guilt and shame were at the core of her eating disorder.
  • She enjoyed having a secret, which was her eating disorder.
  • She has an unhealthy relationship with money and success.
  • Her guilt prevents her from stepping into her passion.
  • She is scared not to have connections with people.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs a new image of what success and wealth look like.
  • She should write out her new definition of fitting in, and her definition of success.
  • She needs to give herself a feeling of longing and connection.
  • She needs to work on feeling grateful.
  • She should get a business coach.

Takeaways:

  • Write out your new definitions of success and failure. Get clear about how you want to define success.
  • Write out your worst-case scenarios around success and failure.
  • Identify the payoff of your negative emotions and find a way to get the payoff in a positive way.
  • If you are starting a business, invest in a coach to help hold you accountable.

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
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