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Removing abundance blocks and boredom at work

Greetings from Bali! I am here leading my annual retreat and this year has been a little more interesting as we are awaiting the possible eruption of Mt Agung, a volcano here on the island.

If there is one thing we absolutely cannot control, it is Mother Nature. So this has been a time of surrender and trusting, while also being smart and taking necessary precautions. We are safe in Ubud and outside the evacuation zone. Your prayers for the people of this magical island are appreciated. Thank you.

So…shifting gears to what’s been cooking on the podcast lately. I had an incredible session with Doreen about creating more abundance in her life. We uncovered a very significant promise she made to herself at a young age based on something she observed in her parents relationship that was impacting her relationship with money. Be sure to listen to this episode and consider what promises or vows you made at a young age that may need to be updated.

Go here to listen to Episode 106 

I also coached Becca on overcoming boredom at work in episode 107. This was a truly fascinating coaching session where I am SO GLAD I did not allow my assumptions to guide how I coached her. What began as a question about work transformed into a conversation about extremist behavior and shame. Don’t miss this one!

Go here to listen to Episode 107 

Enjoy these episodes and please share them with friends and on your social media platforms. 

I am sending you so much love and joy from Bali.  Even amidst all the concern and evacuation of 80,000 people so far, there is still such a feeling of peace and joy here. And as the Balinese say, “Only God knows what will happen.” 

In this moment as I write to you from my room overlooking the rice fields about to go down and lead 22 amazing women through the next process in our retreat, I am filled with gratitude. All is well.

Blessings,

Christine  

Shame OFF You

This week we are discussing an incredibly important, yet often difficult, topic: shame.

Shame is toxic because it leads to keeping things hidden and tainted by judgment. To heal shame, we also must bring what we judge as dark, dirty or wrong into the light.

Bringing the dark into the light is exactly what happened on this week’s episode of Over It and On With It. Listen in as I coach Sarah on healing the shame that has held her back. Specifically we talk about living (and dating) with an STD, but this podcast is really about liberating yourself from the secrets and judgments that go along with shame.

Shame often stands as the guard at the gate to vulnerability. The incredibly painful feeling of shame is based on a misunderstanding of a perceived flaw that we believe must stay hidden. The way to get through shame is by stepping into vulnerability and revealing what we are terrified of being “found out” for. We all want to know that we are loved “even if” we have these dark, scary, shameful feelings and thoughts.

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Healing Shame and Knowing You Are Lovable – No Matter What

EP40v1This episode is about liberating yourself from any kind of shame and the secrets and judgments that go along with it. When we feel ashamed of something we keep it in the dark and that is why shame is so toxic because it leads to keeping things hidden, keeping things where they are tainted by judgment.

Shame often stands as the guard at the gate to vulnerability. The incredible, painful feeling of shame is based on the misunderstanding of a perceived flaw that we believe must stay hidden. The way to get through shame is by stepping into vulnerability and revealing what we are terrified of being found out for. We all want to know that we are loved even if we have these dark, scary, shameful feelings and thoughts.

Today’s caller Sara is taking a huge step toward vulnerability. Sara displays remarkable courage by sharing her secret so openly. I sense a lot of you will relate to having secrets or things you are ashamed of or like Sara, an STD that you feel taints you in some way.

To heal shame, we not only have to do our inner work  but we must also have the courage to bring what we judge as dark or tainted into the light to talk about it. We don’t have to shout out what we are ashamed of from the rooftops, but it’s important that we do not live with secrets. Being raw and real in front of others is an important part of healing any expectation hangover.

We cannot talk ourselves out of trauma and shame. We have to feel our way through it. We have to go back to those inner places that got hurt, with compassion and the willingness to feel the feelings we never really got to feel. It’s an important part of the healing process. We can’t get #overitandonwithit by just thinking about it. We have to go back and treat the wound. The more you heal core wounds, bring shame into the light, forgive and reframe how you see yourself, the more you will shift in how you are seen.

The universe brings things into our awareness to help us heal not to punish us. If we can reframe how we look at them even the terrible things can be blessings.

Listen in and be part of the conversation that breaks down shame.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you carrying around a secret?
  • Do you have an STD, an illness or situation that negatively impacts your dating life?
  • If you are experiencing shame, are you ready and willing to be vulnerable?
  • Are you harboring anger or resentment against anyone or anything which is preventing you from feeling the liberation and love that is your essence?

Sara’s Question:

Sara is having difficulty finding her self-worth in relationships when they begin to get intimate.

Sara’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • The more judgment she places on herself will lead to judgment from others
  • She tries to overcompensate in other areas of her life
  • Her masculine and feminine energies may be out of balance
  • She is bringing her shame into the light by sharing
  • She attracts the kind of love she reveals
  • She can be compassionate with herself and love herself unconditionally

How to get over it and on with it:

  • Realize she is not damaged goods and she is not tainted
  • She should do some forgiveness work around her mistrust
  • Be mindful of the story she tells herself about having an STD
  • She can go back to her 24-year-old self and provide her solace
  • If she heals herself on the spiritual level it can help her on the physical level
  • Have a ‘cut the cord’ ceremony to release her anger towards the other person

Reminders and Takeaways:

  • Vulnerability – What secrets do you have that you have kept in the dark that need to be brought into the light?
  • If you do have herpes or a different STD, find people to talk to about it so you don’t feel alone.
  • Do emotional work for yourself. Write a letter to your younger self who dealt with the things which make you feel shameful.
  • If you are carrying around a secret and have no one to talk to about it, find a professional or a support group to talk to. Don’t keep it inside.
  • Look at where you are compensating because of something you judge about yourself.

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